[Not] Home for the Holidays 

Every year it's the same. Aviation families all around the world hold their collective breaths waiting for that moment that makes or breaks us. It's the moment when we find out if he, our beloved pilot, will be home with his own family for Christmas...or making sure other people get to be with theirs. The release [...]

The Line Around the Christmas Tree

We have always allowed our children to place the ornaments on the Christmas tree. It is a special time when we talk about each ornament and the memories that it represents. There’s the sand- and seashell-filled bulb from our amazing trip to San Diego; the yellow lab puppy for the year we got our dog, Belle; the [...]

Thank God for the Day I Died

It was November 24th, 2000—just another Thanksgiving morning. It was also the day I died. But wait, let’s backtrack a bit. Two months earlier I was just living my life, doing whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, with whomever I wanted. I was 24, single(ish) with suitors out the wazoo, making really good money, and the owner of my very own [...]

Distance Makes the Heart Grow Distant

We've all seen the movie (only like fifty million times during his last trip). A chance encounter. A twist of fate. A stolen kiss. And they fall instantly, deeply, madly in love on the Carolina beaches beneath a breathtaking sunset. They spend two romantic, whirlwind weeks of sheer bliss together before she heads back home to [...]

Feeling Secure at Home When He’s Away

It's almost midnight now. About an hour ago, I was lying here in my comfy little bed reading a book, juuuuust about to [finally] drift into some much needed sleep when there was a loud crash on my back porch. By loud, I mean I’m pretty sure the sky fell. I jolted straight up out [...]

The BIG Announcement

When I started this site on October 21, 2016, I honestly had no idea where this was going to lead. I simply knew that there was a community of negativity surrounding my fellow aviation families and that it wasn't doing our personal or marital wellbeing any favors. We needed a new culture - one that [...]

Learning to F.L.Y. 

One of the key concepts that I try to impress upon my pilots' wives is that it is essential for you to learn to F.L.Y.--to first love yourself--if you are going to be married to a traveling man. If you haven't read this piece (or you just need a reminder), I encourage you wholeheartedly to [...]