Feeling Secure at Home When He’s Away

It's almost midnight now. About an hour ago, I was lying here in my comfy little bed reading a book, juuuuust about to [finally] drift into some much needed sleep when there was a loud crash on my back porch. By loud, I mean I’m pretty sure the sky fell. I jolted straight up out [...]

The Other Woman

Dear Pilot Wives, We spend a lot of time wishing we were her - the other woman. Not the beautiful one on television candy-coated in glitz and glammer. Not the perfect one in our playgroup with the clean, mannerly children. Not the successful one running that multi-million dollar law firm. No, not her. I will [...]

The BIG Announcement

When I started this site on October 21, 2016, I honestly had no idea where this was going to lead. I simply knew that there was a community of negativity surrounding my fellow aviation families and that it wasn't doing our personal or marital wellbeing any favors. We needed a new culture - one that [...]

Learning to F.L.Y. 

One of the key concepts that I try to impress upon my pilots' wives is that it is essential for you to learn to F.L.Y.--to first love yourself--if you are going to be married to a traveling man. If you haven't read this piece (or you just need a reminder), I encourage you wholeheartedly to [...]

Dear Aviation Husband, Five Things I Need From You

Dear Aviation Husband, First and foremost, I want you to know something infinitely important--something which I know I do not tell you nearly enough--I am so very proud of you.  When I see you button up that crisp white shirt, slip on your epaulettes, and pin those wings to your chest, my heart swells with [...]

Unapologetically

Hey lady, you suck at being a wife and mom. Yeah, you. You are a terrible mom. You should be ashamed of yourself as a human being. CPS should take your kids from you. Your husband should divorce you. I hope you die. You don't deserve kids. You are a loser, a worthless piece of.... Except you are not; [...]

Incurable Disease

"Hello. My name is Angelia. I am a pilot's wife." Sometimes when I announce that particular life fact, it feels like I'm revealing some deep, dark secret to a sympathetic support group beneath the cold, unfeeling fluorescents of some damp basement room. Or like I've been diagnosed with an incurable illness. Because that's how people [...]