Learning to F.L.Y. 

One of the key concepts that I try to impress upon my pilots' wives is that it is essential for you to learn to F.L.Y.--to first love yourself--if you are going to be married to a traveling man. If you haven't read this piece (or you just need a reminder), I encourage you wholeheartedly to [...]

Dear Aviation Husband, Five Things I Need From You

Dear Aviation Husband, First and foremost, I want you to know something infinitely important--something which I know I do not tell you nearly enough--I am so very proud of you.  When I see you button up that crisp white shirt, slip on your epaulettes, and pin those wings to your chest, my heart swells with [...]

Unapologetically

Hey lady, you suck at being a wife and mom. Yeah, you. You are a terrible mom. You should be ashamed of yourself as a human being. CPS should take your kids from you. Your husband should divorce you. I hope you die. You don't deserve kids. You are a loser, a worthless piece of.... Except you are not; [...]

Incurable Disease

"Hello. My name is Angelia. I am a pilot's wife." Sometimes when I announce that particular life fact, it feels like I'm revealing some deep, dark secret to a sympathetic support group beneath the cold, unfeeling fluorescents of some damp basement room. Or like I've been diagnosed with an incurable illness. Because that's how people [...]

An Ode to Pilot Wife Moms

Some #thepilotwifelife days are just like that. Yeah, I have them too. You know, where nothing seems to go right, No matter what you do? There's red marker on his pilot shirt; The dishes are stacked ceiling high; Stepping on Legos really hurts! "Don't lasso the dog with daddy's tie!" She unintentionally broke grandma's antique plate; I [...]

Let’s Choose Love

I know this woman. She should hate me, and I should hate her too. By all conceivable, current-day, self-gratifying logic, she and I have every rational reason and personal right to downright loathe one another. But we don't. In fact, we are friends. If you laid out our general beliefs, tastes, affiliations, religions, political preferences, [...]

Perfect Chaos

Can I tell you a frank secret? Because you are, after all, my people... I got up this morning and he was gone. I reached for him, but he wasn't there, and my heart did a sad little flip. Sooooo I checked my messages to cheer me up. Big mistake. The first one I received this [...]